“I actually can’t believe it… it’s a huge, huge miracle that my body is self-regulating like that!”
Receiving messages like this never gets old.
It was a message over Voxer, from my client – telling me that she’d been sleeping soundly through the night, without needing to take sleeping pills.
(And, without waking up in anxiety and spending hours tossing & turning and trying to get back to sleep).
What’s more, the sleeping was only one piece. My client was also reporting a totally different sense of calmness throughout the day and an ability to “bounce back” from stressful situations.
She reported a whole new ability to respond to frustrating situations…. no longer feeling driven by the emotional triggers. Instead, she’s able to her husband and kids from a centered and loving place.
How Does Self Regulating of the Nervous System Happen?
Today, my client is living a totally different experience than the place she’d felt “stuck” in when we started working together.
Mind you, she’d LOOKED quite successful as a busy mom, running a thriving new business.
But underneath the capable exterior was a different story: anxious thought loops running the show, feeling alternately stressed and exhausted, managing random body aches and pains that constantly moved around but never actually healed, and of course, the insomnia…which included waking up nightly into heart palpitations and extreme anxiety.
With all this going on, it made sense why the relief in her Voxer message was so palpable. And as she described her experience of feeling her body naturally relax without effort, and drifting into a blissfully restorative sleep, I could feel the relief with her.
It did take some time. These kinds of entire system shifts didn’t happen overnight.
First we had to first teach her nervous system that it was safe (after trauma) to come *back* into her body.
Trauma responses live in the body, not in the mind (which is why mindset work often isn’t the WHOLE answer to manifesting the changes you’re seeking to create.)
And even though my client wasn’t sure exactly what was up when she came to me…. she had tried all the healing things with only moderate results. After trying so many things, she had a sense that unhealed trauma was a piece of the puzzle.
How to Create True Change in the Nervous System
Here’s what we did…
✅ First, we built in a whole new sense of internal awareness, to bring her back into her body. (Many high achieving women are amazingly skilled at living outside their bodies, as a coping strategy)
✅ Next, we uncovered her personal repertoire of somatic tools and practices, so she could create an internal “felt sense” of safety in her nervous system.
✅ With these foundations in place, were were able to discharge the stored “survival stress” that had been stuck in her body for decades (which had been causing havoc with her sleep-wake cycles, her ability to focus, her emotional state, and even her hormones and digestion)
✅ Now, with more space, we next wired in new neural pathways for ease and calm – handing her back the ability to make the higher choice… so she could connect to her spiritual guidance at any moment (instead of responding from a triggered place)
Regulating your nervous system has become a bit of a hot topic — which has led to lots of big promises for quick fixes and instant cures.
The truth is that rewiring your physiology can take time. It also takes support, a safe container, and a consistent, skillful and nuanced approach to listening to your system and guiding it out of old, fixated stress responses and into new patterns of flexibility and flow.
I don’t do “hacks” or band-aid solutions— but if you’re experiencing the effects of chronic stress that don’t seem to shift (no matter what you try) – and you’re ready to permanently and positively change what’s happening in your nervous system so you can more fully express your soul level work AND feel great in your body along the way- we may be a great fit to work together.
::: Who’s this for?
✨ Successful as you are, you’ve a hunch that there may be some dysregulation in your nervous system (perhaps hidden beneath the surface for years or decades). Ready to create true change, you’re seeking an effective and safe path to release any stored trauma and create greater alignment, wellness, calm, and flow
✨ You’re not in crisis and you’re able to self- resource.
✨ From your own inner guidance, you can own your journey and results. You’re not looking to abdicate your power, because you trust yourself.
✨ You’re not looking to be rescued – but ready to be supported in moving to your next level
If you’re ready to create lasting change in your nervous system, permanently clear patterns of anxiety and stress, increase calm and mental flow, and connect even more deeply to your inner guidance, so you can fully live the next level of what you’re here for…. email me for info about how we can work together and create this kinds of results.
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